Elly Oka, BACP

Elly Oka is a counsellor based in the United Kingdom who supports people facing stress, anxiety, depression, grief and relationship concerns. She also helps with self-esteem, addictions, trauma and intimacy-related issues. Elly aims to make the first step feel manageable and clear for someone who is worried or unsure. Elly works from the belief that each person knows their own story. She listens without judgement and helps people build on their existing strengths. Sessions are practical and focused, with space to talk and to try small changes between meetings. Her style draws on a mix of gentle exploration and structured skills work. She uses approaches such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to address unhelpful thinking and to build values-led action. Attachment-based ideas and Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills inform how she helps with relationships and emotional regulation. Elly has five years of professional experience and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, BACP. That background shapes a thoughtful, evidence-aware practice without losing sight of what matters to each person. She welcomes people who are navigating life changes, parenting strain, career stress, chronic illness, or concerns such as ADHD, abandonment or codependency. Her aim is practical support you can use between sessions as well as during them.

How therapy approaches translate to online sessions

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT, helps people notice unhelpful thoughts and choose actions that match their values rather than getting stuck in avoidance. It is useful for anxiety, depression and life changes. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, CBT, focuses on identifying thinking patterns and testing them with practical experiments to reduce distress and improve daily functioning. It often helps with anxiety, mood and sleep problems. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape expectations in current relationships and can help with intimacy and trust issues.

Picking the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will listen to your goals and try different ways of working to find what fits. You and the therapist can decide together whether to focus on skills, values-based action, or relationship patterns as you go.

The biography does not specify which online session formats are offered, so confirm current options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, allow for shorter check-ins when needed, and reduce travel time. It can also let people practise skills in their everyday setting and bring immediate problems into the session for real-time work.